One of the most difficult things in life to get over is failure. Failure stings, depresses, oppresses, and creates discouragement. It is very hard to get back on that horse and try again if we are never properly taught how to fail properly. Is there a proper way to fail? I argue there is. I guess it would be considered more a strategy on how to handle failure or a paradigm shift in regards to thinking about failure. However, instead of me pontificating about this shift, I am going to let Disney express my thoughts:
I love this movie and its sentiment about success. No one understood this principal more than Walt Disney himself when he couldn’t find a lender to help him build Disneyland. I believe the legend says he went to over 300 lenders and got laughed out of many of them…all were rejections and abject failure. But he “kept moving forward” and finally someone gave him money to buy a lot of acres in Anaheim California. The rest is history.
As parents who teach their children it is important to set a good example of handling failure as well as instructing on how to handle it. I don’t do as good as I should (oh look, another failure) but I try to keep going in spite of failure, take a step back, readjust, and try again. We need to teach our kids the failure hurts but its not really failure. It’s more of a trial and error try. “You found a way it didn’t work, get over it, take a step back, readjust, and try again”. The only real failure is to quit.
Now, you may find what your doing isn’t possible, wanted, or available. However, this isn’t failure. This is a discovery that what you had set out to do is a waste of time, it is a success! This “failure” will allow you to now concentrate your efforts on something else that could be “successful”. Sure the effort, time, money, etc. may seem like a waste. I am thankful that Edison found 1000 ways the light bulb didn’t work because we wouldn’t have the light bulb today, nor would that tenacity have produced the phonograph or even technology to lead to recording moving images. Imagine, without Edison’s “moving forward” mentality we wouldn’t enjoy the modern day cinema. Teach your kids to keep moving forward on every endeavor no matter that consequences of “failure”.
ANSWER TO BRAIN TEASER
Dottie likes a star. She only likes words that can be another word when spelled backwards.